Archive for May, 2009

week in review…

Posted in Entertainment, Gay & Lesbian, News & Media with tags , , , , , , , , on May 15, 2009 by urban crawler

Oh, am I glad it’s finally Friday!  What a week it’s been, and I feel the need to round up the week before signing off for the weekend.  First off, let’s update the saga of Carrie Prejean controversy…now, I really didn’t think I’d be blogging about her anymore after my last post, but I swear she just may become my next favorite blog topic after Sarah Palin if she keeps this up (my other blog)!  So, to update…
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  1. As predicted, another picture surfaced, and this time Carrie Prejean pulled a Janet Jackson on us and blamed it on a costume malfunction on a very windy day for her nipple exposure…hmmm, but how is it that her hair is so perfectly calm on such a windy day?
  2. Donald Trump has spoken and Carrie Prejean will keep her crown.  His logic?  “It’s the same answer that the president of the United States gave,” referring to her stance on gay marriage.  Yeah…but, what about the fact that she lied and she violated the contract?  I’m actually somewhat surprised to hear of his decision, but then again…not really.  The bottom line is, I highly doubt that he would’ve been as lenient in his boardroom, and his trivialization of a breach of contract in this case should be an insult to all the other women involved in the pageant who did faithfully abide by it.
  3. As a result of his decision, Former Miss USA Shanna Moakler resigned as co-executive director of the Miss USA pageant, saying she “cannot with a clear conscious move forward supporting and promoting the Miss Universe Organization when I no longer believe in it, or the contracts I signed committing myself as a youth.”  Good for her! 
  4. I had no idea that Donald Trump was the owner of Miss USA Pageant and that anything he says basically goes.  Then why even bother having a panel of judges?  We might as well just have Donald walk up and down the isle full of women and have him personally pick out his choice for a winner.  There’s another reason to add as to why I don’t watch the beauty pageants…

Ok, I’m really done with this childish, waste-of-time crap…let’s turn to something worthwhile and of real importance.  I’m a little behind in posting the video and it’s a bit lengthy, but it’s definitely worth watching.  Just yesterday, in his latest battle to keep his job as an infantry officer in the US Army, Lt. Daniel Choi released a pleading letter to President Obama.  As  Commander-in-Chief, I sincerely hope the President will expedite the repeal of “don’t ask, don’t tell” policy and honor these men and women that put their lives on the line for the country everyday…

“I have personally served for a decade under Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell: an immoral law and policy that forces American soldiers to deceive and lie about their sexual orientation. Worse, it forces others to tolerate deception and lying. These values are completely opposed to anything I learned at West Point. Deception and lies poison a unit and cripple a fighting force.

As an infantry officer, an Iraq combat veteran and a West Point graduate with a degree in Arabic, I refuse to lie to my commanders. I refuse to lie to my peers. I refuse to lie to my subordinates. I demand honesty and courage from my soldiers. They should demand the same from me.”


I’m ready!

Posted in Health & Fitness with tags , , , , , , on May 14, 2009 by urban crawler

jillianmichaelsOk…did everyone see the season finale of The Biggest Loser on Tuesday night?  This is one TV event that is highly anticipated in our house–we may not get to see every episode during the season, but we always tune in for the big finale.  I absolutely love this show!  By the way…I know the picture of Jillian Michaels on the left doesn’t quite reflect the show, the contestants or the finale, but I can’t help it–she’s so damn HOT!!  Oh what I would give to have her as my personal trainer, but I digress… 

What’s so inspiring about the show is witnessing all the determination, the struggles, and the sheer transformation that takes place as a result of hard work and dedication, and you don’t have to be obese to appreciate any of that.  I love the message the show sends out–work hard to achieve your goals and take no shortcuts!  There’s no magic pills, fad diets, or liposuctions here…just your good ol’ fashion workouts and eating right, and the same formula applies to everyone, whether you’re trying to lose 5 pounds or 200 pounds.

After watching the finale, I’m more motivated than ever to get my workout and health back on track.  I’m not in terrible shape, but I could do so much better.  So, yesterday I took a quick assessment of my recent eating habits and took these photos:fridgecandybowlI must admit that I do enjoy the visual assortment of soda, beer and sake every time I go to open my fridge, but it’s never a good sign when water bottles start getting pushed to the back.  My other big issue is my “sweet stash”.  Yup, chocolate is my favorite vice, and this bowl is situated centrally in my kitchen…way too much temptation for anyone.  Now, I’m a firm believer of the saying, “everything in moderation”, and I have no intention of giving up either alcohol or chocolate no matter what Jillian says, but I will have to cut down considerably.  I’ve been in this “training mode” before, so I know too well what lies ahead of me, but I’m still very excited!  I’ll try to post regularly to log my progress…maybe blogging about it will help keep me accountable.

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lesbians and labels…

Posted in Entertainment, Gay & Lesbian with tags , , , , , , on May 11, 2009 by urban crawler

urbancrawlerA few weeks ago, I blogged about Queer Eye Candy, a website that I really liked, and last Thursday I decided to show my support by submitting my  photos.  This morning I checked back on their site and read the comments generated over the weekend, and they got me to think about this whole “labels” within the lesbian culture.  Why are so many lesbians preoccupied with labels?  What is the true function of labels?  Do labels help or deter a person in his/her quest for identity?

I can only answer for myself and share my personal experiences, but I think labels are just another way our society tries to classify and conform everyone into this simple and rigid set of arbitrary definitions.  I know, because I myself have gone from one extreme to the other.  During the period of being in the closet, you can say that I was your classic “femme” in appearance–the long hair, the makeup, the “girly” clothes…the lesbian that always flew under the gaydar.  Although I enjoyed the fashion aspect of it, you can say that I still used the label to my advantage to protect my “in the closet” status at that time.  Then when I finally came out, I went through another significant period of being over-exuberant.  The freedom of finally being “out” translated into a desire to be more radical and to have this “no-apologies” attitude about who I was to anyone.  I also wanted to belong and be recognized in my new “community”, so I cut my hair short and sported a “butch” attitude that came with the look. 

This went on for a while, but then I finally calmed down and eventually grew out of this “adolescent lesbian” years and that’s when I really started to get to know myself and become comfortable with who I was.  Now, fashion is just a fashion to me…whereas my style is a definite reflection of my personality, clothes and outward appearances do not define me as a woman, as a lesbian or as a person.

Again, this is just my own take on it…I think labels among lesbians is a very complicated subject with many different layers and implications, but I do know that between a “femme” and a “butch” lies a whole spectrum and all the small subtleties that make up that spectrum is the true reflection of all the different lesbians among us.

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Carrie Prejean – oh, the hypocrisy!

Posted in Gay & Lesbian, News & Media with tags , , , , , on May 7, 2009 by urban crawler

Carrie PrejeanWhen the whole Miss USA pageant controversy surrounding Miss California first surfaced over a month ago, my initial reaction was mostly that of indifference. When I saw the clip of Carrie Prejean’s interview and her answer to what she thought about gay marriage, I just snickered a bit and shook my head, but thought that she was entitled to her opinion. I even thought that if anything, Perez Hilton’s vblog after the contest where he called her a “bitch” was unnecessary and childish.  Do I think that her answer caused her the title? Probably. Do I think that it was right for her to not win based on her answer? Absolutely. However, I do not agree with Hilton’s argument that she should’ve answered  differently to come off sounding more neutral on the issue. I’m always a proponent of “tell the truth and say what you mean”.  Of course, she couldn’t just let things be and for weeks following the pageant, she went on a media blitz and started invoking God for everything and even went on to become a spokesperson for the National Organization of Marriage, and that’s when my irritations really started to grow.

My issues with Carrie Prejean wasn’t for her voicing her opinion on the night of the pageant, but for her lies and hypocrisy that are becoming more and more apparent as all the dirt on her is now being dug up. By now, I’m sure everyone has seen the semi-nude pictures of her. First it was just one, but on the morning news today we learn that there’s another…and probably many more to follow. I’m not even going to touch on the subject of her moral character as a “Christian” to have posed for these pictures–I’ll leave that up to all the righteous Christians out there to do. My one and only point is that she LIED! Posing for semi-nude pictures is a clear violation of her contract as Miss California, as there’s a clause which asks the participants to say whether they have conducted themselves “in accordance with the highest ethical and moral standards”, and as an example, it asks if they have ever been photographed nude or partially nude”She can try to back paddle all she wants and argue that it was a lingerie model shoot or that she was only 17 and stupid, but a fact is a fact and she did indeed pose partially nude.  Furthermore, she initially went on the record to say that “there are no other photos of me…this was the only one I took.”  Well, now we all know that she LIED again! 

So I have to ask Carrie Prejean…does the same God you worship think it’s okay for you to lie?  I believe it’s the 9th commandment that states Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor”It’s aggravating whenever I hear Christians call upon God only when it conveniently suits their purpose in passing judgement against others, but the true reality is that they need to stop pointing their fingers at others and instead look deep within themselves first…that’s what God would truly want.  As for Carrie Prejean, her title as Miss California should be stripped (pun intended) for her contract violations.

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my current dilemma…

Posted in Arts, Gay & Lesbian with tags , , , , on May 1, 2009 by urban crawler

While catching up on my blog reading, I came across this post and learned something new today about the secret code of lesbianism.  Who knew that sporting a nautical star tattoo on your wrist is the universal signal for lesbians?  Well, apparently it is:

Since the 1940’s and 1950’s, a nautical star tattoo has been used by some homosexuals to indicate their sexual preference. Lesbians started this practice among themselves during an era when homosexuality was frowned upon and not spoken about. Many lesbians chose to get a small nautical star tattoo on the top of their wrist, which could easily be covered by a watch if needed.

I had no idea!  Too bad I’m not too fond of the nautical star, or any other stars for that matter…which brings me to my next point, my current dilemma.  I have been thinking, talking, and debating about getting a tattoo for a long while now.  My birthday is coming up and it seems that each year right around this time is when my tattoo desire starts to flare up again and I always seem to get stuck on the same issues of, what and where.

As far as where to put the tattoo, I have managed to narrow it down to somewhere on my upper body, which still doesn’t help a lot.  Everyone I’ve talked to, whether they have a tattoo or not, all seem to have different opinions.  My attorney friend M, has suggested a more discreet location like the lower side abdomen or the inner chest area, for reasons of it not interfering with your “professional image”.  As plausible as it first sounded, I had to think twice about her logic when I asked her to show me her tattoo and she nearly forgot where it was and literally took her 20 seconds to find it!  My artsy friend T, is more of an advocate for “going for the dramatic statement”.  Well, her tattoo is the size of Alaska and it spans her whole upper back, wrapping around to one of her shoulders…not sure if I want THAT much statement.  Another friend L, who’s in the health care field, is all about where it’ll hurt the most and least, lecturing me on body fat concentration and nerve endings…she pretty much ruled out 95% of the human body…no small wonder then that she has no tattoos.  Finally, there’s my most systematic and “I love clean lines” girlfriend, who prefers the upper back shoulder or the lower back because it’s “more subtly classy” that way, but it makes me wonder what the point of having a tattoo is if you can’t see it without the aid of a mirror.  Oh, and she also opposes any tattoo that is on one side of the body only, like the arm, because it “creates a visual imbalance”…well, I guess I could get two matching tattoos on either side of my body then…

The bigger and more important question is of course, what?  The idea of something permanent going on your body is very nerve wrecking  and I truly do envy those that are able to get tattoos rather effortlessly.  It may seem exaggerated, but if you can see the bare walls in my house due to my indecisiveness in choosing artwork, maybe you’ll understand my neurosis better.  So, I’ve been searching for that perfect image with the perfect meaning behind it and that hasn’t been easy.  I’ve done enough research now on different symbols and signs of every culture out there to earn me a PhD and I even toyed with the idea of designing my own tattoo, but quickly decided that I did not want to be my own critic every time I look at it…yeah, that was definitely a bad idea.  So, the search goes on and right now I’m cautiously optimistic that this will be the year…or not.  You’ll definitely hear me blog about it when there’s an update…stay tuned.

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